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Car Shopping with No Cash… My 12-Step Process

Going car shopping with no money in your pocket, having emptied out your purse and wallet, can really put things into perspective. I personally prefer to shop this way, especially when looking to make a substantial purchase as a  vehicle.

I like doing this as it allows me to “shop” my salesperson to see who is “worthy” of their commission/sale. It also allows me to truly get a better view of how that particular car lot does business; the mindset of the company or atleast management and the sales floor.

I remember my very first, solo, car buying experience. I say solo, since I was by myself, but I did have my brother-like figure helping to negotiate the pricing on my car (virtually mind you). It was a crazy experience and one I will never forget. I had shopped several lots, seeing every single thing I did NOT want and being prompted and prodded to just get this or that. Me being relentless in my thinking and knowing that I would be seriously peeved if I purchased something just to have a new set of wheels, but did not actually enjoy it, just left each lot. You see, in my mind I had plotted and planned and could see myself in a luxury sports sedan, even though I felt that I did not have that type of money and certainly not that type of credit. But I believed in prayer and in my own ability to “think things possible”.

Car shopping, decisions, decisions, decisions...

My 12-Step Process

  1. Deal Breaker List – I planned by creating a list of all the amenities and features I “had to have/deal-breakers”.
  2. Nice but Not Need List – Next I created a “niceties but not necessities” list.
  3. Specs Check – Then I went on the internet to see which makes and models had my specs and I started pulling up the KBB (Kelly Blue Book) value on all as well as checking the gas mileage, emissions and other data on fueleconomy.gov (I truly treasure this site).
  4. Virtual Car Shopping – Next I started virtually shopping the various dealerships and car lots via the web.
  5. Phone Dealer to see if Car is Still There – Once I saw a vehicle I liked I would call, to see if it was still available (this step is tricky as they will say, oh yeah it’s here, and when you get there, it was sold “right before you came” (hoax alert and automatic disqualifier).
  6. Onsite Browsing – I started to make visits to the lots on Sunday’s (Ha, most dealerships are closed on Sunday’s so no hassle, no fuss, just plenty of time for my analytical mind to evaluate in peace).
  7. Test Drive and Vehicle Inspection – I visited the lots when open, so I could inspect and test drive my prospective vehicles.
    • Inspection – This step is so very important, as I am a very particular person. I want quality, comfort, space and practicality, bundled into a cute n’ sexy design – with great gas mileage of course. So I did my standard checks for cup holders, headrest positioning, back seat comfort, seat belt types, storage placement and space, trunk space, rear leg room, rear hip room (need this for the “she/he is touching me” children issues), controls, multi-disc cd changer, stereo system (Bose is a must) etc. I take a look under the hood to see if all the things I have to keep up with (fluid levels and such) are easily accessible and not a hassle to open and close. I literally check all of these things, to name a few!
    • Safety – I checked out all of the safety ratings, including the fact that my vehicle of choice was built on an airliners frame! Oh, yes, safe and secure for my precious cargo (my babies).
    • Test Drive -Manual transmission is my “go-to” decision factor, love me some stick-shifts. So I check for shift ease, steering (too loose or too stiff = a “no”), pickup speed, on dash visuals, how it takes corners, how it handles bumps on the road, quick turning and how it responds to stops. Seat adjustments are key for comfort, love our road trips. We carry our own electronics so the only other creature feature I desire is a jack for my phone, with connection to car speaker system and a usb connection for all else.
  8. Review All My Data – After I have completed my test drives I go home, review and write down all of my thoughts and true feelings. I make a pro’s and con’s list and think over it for a few days to a week or two. Generally if it takes this long I have not found the car I am satisfied with enough and I then begin my search again, with refined parameters and specs, or a new dealer, cause they’ve made me mad.
  9. Vehicle Report – Eureka! I’ve found my vehicle, now at this stage I generally order my own Carfax report on it.
  10. Financing – I either have secured financing or will secure financing. I prefer the online method for securing financing, that way several companies can bid for your business at once and the one that has the most favorable bid, you choose and they literally send you a check; with in 2 days, to your home. I think I went through LendingTree. When you shop via this method, it is less stressful, in my opinion, and it is like shopping with cash. Please note: I had done all of my due diligence earlier in the year, working on my credit, had a good paying job, etc, which made this process simple for me. These days, anyone, no matter their situation can get financing. The terms may not be as favorable, but if you have to do it, there are options out there. And if you are paying with cash, go for it. Congrats and No car payment for you! There are also programs out there, in various cities; some are called “Wheels to Work”. These is a government funded programs, so to find one in your area is a good thing. Each program may be named a little bit different and through different entities, so be creative and diligent in your search; if this option is for you. Note – During this process, I forgot to add that I already, since I had researched first, knew what the price is that I desired to pay for my vehicle. So I knew full well and was not willing to go outside of that figure/price point; unless that vehicle was truly worth it. (This is the step that I like to have a male friend or male family member – who is good at sales and negotiation – do the price talk on my behalf). I also allowed “my car” to sit on the lot for nearly a month, joys of being a manual shift driver, I guess, lol. And a side note, I purchased my car, my “Audi” from the actual “Volkswagen/Audi” dealer lot, made me feel more comfortable and confident buying direct and it came with a warranty so I knew they knew what to do and how to fix it like new, if anything happened to it.
  11. Prayer – I look at it this way, I had prayed over my list of specifications prior to me even stepping out the door. I knew that the Lord was going to bless me with exactly what I needed, and even “…exceedingly abundantly, above all that we ask or think according to the power that worketh in us” Ephesians 6:20 kjv. So I had the faith that He [God] was going to move and bless in my favor; in accordance with His will for my life. So I prayed continuously over my vehicle and each week, or day I checked the price on it, on the internet (yes the lot had it online too) the price was literally dropping thousands of dollars each time. The listing price was $26,000 for a certified pre-owned 2005.5 Audi A4 2.0T, in 2007. By the time I went to collect “my” vehicle (claimed it, in Jesus name), a month later, it was $20,000. Yes! God did it, just for me! And He WILL do it for you too; and NO this does not just apply to material or monetary things. This belief and faith action applies to ALL things. By the time I was ready to pick up my car, they had it pulled to the side, for me, off the lot and they were waiting for me with my keys in their hands. They had already prepared to accept my $16,000 check… Yes, $10,000 off the list price folks…. I know, I’ll just let that sink in…
  12. Last Minute Checks and Fixes – Now, prior to making the handover of the check I had seen somethings that I felt needed to be fixed, the glass on the vehicle was allowing condensation, under the windshield (they replaced the windshield completely), there were dings and things from small, seemingly miniscule rocks on the hood (they filled all holes with same color hood paint), etc, etc, etc… not a whole lot of fixing but my pet peeve, “I’m investing, I want the absolute best for my investment” issues had to be satisfied. Pushy, I know, but the squeaky wheel, GOT the oil.

 

2005.5 Audi A4 2.0T Quattro

This is not a pic of my car, but a nearly exact representation. The main difference is under the hood, this is a Quattro. My Audi was not, but for all intents and purposes, it’s still gorgeous! Just look at those lines!

 

 

My vehicle, we lovingly named her “silver”, yes she was silver, was a blessing to my children and I for many years. She was exceptional on the road. My children loved road trips, as she was ultra comfy, smooth ride with hushed interior and oh….. that BOSE sound…. ummmm, ummmm! Sweeeeeeet!

I did have to replace the clutch about 1.5 years later ($1,500 – yes, *cough, choke, gag*) but that was the only major issue I had and the only issue I had with her for the entire time she was mine; and she drove beautifully.

Many trips 700 miles each way, sometimes every other weekend even, where taken in her and she took to the road like we were going around the corner. Gas mileage on those trips was amazing as I only had to fill up 1.5 times each way! Yes! As you can see I truly enjoyed EVERY aspect of my vehicle, even down to the trunk space. That trunk space was exceptional. You see, they took into account the wheels so that there was not that awkward wheel shape eating up the trunk space; so maximum cargo area in the trunk!!! NICE for strollers and diaper bags snacks, extra clothes, shoes, etc… (my babies where much younger back then…. *sigh*)

So, in closing, take your time. Having cash on hand right then, is not a necessity and helps to keep you in the proper frame of mind, seeing all things as they should be seen. Pray and ask God to give you what is best for you. Do your research. Don’t be bullied. Take your time some more. Weigh all of your options. Extend your research and work with the people that are the most attentive and respectful of your time; regardless of whether they think you’ve got money or not. Take a friend with you that has your best interest at heart. And, most importantly believe you can achieve the object of your dreams… Audi was my dream car and I got exactly what I wanted, Plus a few cool extras!

 

To your health, wealth and continued success. Be blessed, don’t stress, pursue happiness!

When Time Stands Still… A Poem

When Time Stands Still… A Poem

by Coach Kenyatte

 children are blessings

 

Time stands still when I drop my children off at school,

and that moment comes as I pray blessings over them and watch as they walk in.

Time stands still when they are playing,

and I watch admiring how they’ve grown and are developing so nicely.

Time stands still when they are active,

and I grab them, to steal a long hug, holding them close and whispering, “I love you so much”.

Time stands still as I watch them converse,

and they engage each other in meaningful, bond strengthening conversation.

Time stands still as I the house falls quiet,

and each person, doing their chores, learns that these tasks are the necessities of life.

Time stands still as I show them my grind,

and I explain to them why I work at it consistently, so they can have the keys to a satisfying life.

Time stands still when I appreciate all God has provided me with, in my children.

Yes, time stands still.

6 of Winter Seasons Most Favored Soups, With Benefits

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The winter season is the special time of year that soups, stews and ultra hefty meals are increasingly welcomed, due to their ability to promote, that feel good feeling as well as warmth. I consider soups to be my go-to, in the winter months for the additional hydration properties, as well as their comfort factors. The following list contains researched faves and the benefits they provide. Don’t see yours? No worries, leave me a comment and I’ll check it out, to see about adding it to my list.

  • Chicken Noodle Soup – A post by ABC News, states that, “the University of Nebraska Medical Center in Omaha, found evidence the soup contains anti-inflammatory properties that may help prevent a cold’s miserable side effects.”
  • Tomato Soup – Contains vitamins A, E, C, K, essential minerals and antioxidants
  • Miso Soup – Anti-Aging properties, beneficial bacteria for the digestive tract, immune system strengthening to fight infection and cancer.
  • Lentil Soup – Macronutrients, Fiber and Iron
  • Split Pea Soup – Vitamin K, Fiber, potassium
  • Gazpacho – In Diane Parcells’ article, Vegetable Soup Fights Cell Damage, she cited, “Scientists at Tufts University in Boston report that volunteers eating a type of vegetable soup twice a day had lower amounts of stress-related molecules in their blood after just 7 days. The researchers say the beneficial effect was due at least in part to an increase in vitamin C intake.”

 


The Article Garden:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=117888

10 Amazing Health Benefits of Tomato Soup – http://www.stylecraze.com/articles/health-benefits-uses-of-tomato-soup/

Healthy Benefits of Tomato Soup – http://www.boldsky.com/health/nutrition/2012/health-benefits-of-tomato-soup-030976.html

What’s New and Beneficial About Miso – http://www.whfoods.com/genpage.php?tname=foodspice&dbid=114

Miso Soup: A Delicious Bowl Full of Health and Anti-Aging Benefits – http://www.naturalnews.com/025519_health_anti-aging_soy.html

The Health Benefits of Miso Soup and 2 Easy Miso Soup Recipes – http://veganamericanprincess.com/the-health-benefits-of-miso-soup-and-2-easy-miso-soup-recipes/

Vegetable Soup Fights Cell Damage – https://www.sciencenews.org/blog/food-thought/vegetable-soup-fights-cell-damage

Is Lentil Soup Healthy? – http://www.livestrong.com/article/410170-is-lentil-soup-healthy/

The Advantages of Split Pea Soup – http://healthyeating.sfgate.com/advantages-split-pea-soup-4353.html

Health Benefits of Split Peas – http://www.naturalfoodbenefits.com/display.asp?CAT=6&ID=107

Eat MORE… Winter Fruits!

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With this cold and flu season upon us and the summer months behind us, it can be hard to get ahold of our favorite fruits. Here is a list of the fruits and vegetables that are in season now and oh, soooo good for these cold, icky crud months. I included plenty of links so you can read the total benefits and find out great information on each.

  • Grapefruit – Vitamin A, C
  • Kiwi – Vitamin C, E, potassium and fiber (Find out more about this fruits secret power)
  • Kumquats – Mini citrus fruit with edible peel, high in vitamin C, fiber
  • Oranges – Vitamin C, fiber
  • Pears – Vitamin C, fiber
  • Persimmons – Vitamin A, C, fiber
  • Pomegranates – Vitamin C, K, potassium, folate, copper, fiber
  • Pummelos – Grapefruit family
  • Date Plums – Vitamin A, C, manganese and fiber
  • Passion Fruit – Vitamin C and fiber
  • Red Banana – Vitamin C
  • Red Currants – Vitamin C and antioxidants
  • Cherimoya – Member of the custard apple family, high in vitamin c, fiber and potassium
  • Cactus Pear – High in vitamin C, magnesium and fiber

 


Great site article that I used as my source for the above, details the health benefits of the above fruits as well as providing a more extensive list for winter’s bounty:

What Fruits and Vegetables Are in Season During Winter? http://www.fruitsandveggiesmorematters.org/whats-in-season-winter

 

 

Blessings

9 Tips to Drive Creativity in Your Increasingly Busy Life and World

Unleash your creativity!

Powering Business Growth

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Staying creative in this increasingly BUSY life and world is a freedom all too many do not take the chance to enjoy. Creativity is the key to being fresh, maintaining vibrance, keeping forward momentum, staying open-minded and being productive. Creativity can be a fuel source for productivity. Here are a few tips on how to maintain your creativity in this busy, busy life.

  1. Practice Creative Posturing – When you are feeling or experiencing your creative nature/your creative juices flowing, how is your posture? Are you sitting, standing, laying down, walking, running, talking? How is your body positioned? However your creativity comes, you need to recognize it, what you were doing when it came and then mimic/duplicate that posture/body position. This will allow you to harness and access the power of your creative thinking, at will and on demand.
  2. Get into Creative Space – What environment drives/encourages your creative thinking? What…

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Bringing in the New Year… With a Plan

Exposive Success

I thought long and hard about how excited I am about the New Year, what it represents to me and how I want honor it and step within on the right note. I figured I am already doing it partially right as my oldest son is with me during this holiday, which is a huge treat. I figured that I spent last New Year’s visiting with family, bubbly, music, a little dancing… it was nice, but I really want something more this year. I want to bring in the New Year with a newer, fresher outlook on life and New ways of thinking and New Actions to take. I figured I would go all out and try something that I have never done before.

I am going to stay AT HOME, with my children, praying and blessing my home while inviting positive direction, energy, feelings, emotions, positive growth and development, … a positive life in. You see, I’m a huge fan of New Year’s celebrations, and due to the overwhelming amount of things I hurdled in order to get to 2014’s door, I am choosing to  focus my attention on saying good bye to all of those hurdles and HELLO to the outpouring of blessings and positive energy 2014 brings.

2014 kids

It takes a lot to remain focused on what’s positive, when you are surrounded and compounded, almost daily, with distractions. BUT, if you would just keep your focus you will see that the distractions have to sit down and be still at some point in your journey. So why not NOW!

“The celebration style I have chosen is for the mindset I desire to be in, in order to produce great things in 2014.” ~ Coach Kenyatte

So, how do you plan for your New Year/New You?

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Another way I plan, is to literally plan. I actually sit down and write out my goals and objectives, both personal/interpersonal and professional, and then read them off out loud. This process helps to aid in committing to memory and speaking life to your plans, for them to transform into reality.

You see, once you have written them and then spoken them, now it is your bodies turn, by way of your subconscious mind, to start getting in line with and positioning you for your opportunities of greatness.

2014 sand

Once you have crossed over the threshold of 2014, you then revisit your goals every so often (daily, weekly, monthly) to make sure that you are staying on track. What happens, is this, you write it, say it, your body starts finding the path to it. Now, it is your minds job to RECOGNIZE and call the “paths to your dream” by their rightful name (Identification).

You MUST recognize the paths that are being laid out before you; those paths that are right and heading you in the correct direction and those paths that are detractors or distractions from your goals. You have to evaluate, weigh and determine what is what and chose accordingly.

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Now, this is quite a bit of information for one post. But I wrote it to make sure that those of you who need it have a way to get started out on the right foot. The POWER of CHOICE is at your disposal and use. Choose wisely.

“Set your goals big enough that you enjoy the process of reaching them. Set your goals far enough that it takes you many new places, experiencing many new things while achieving them.” ~ Coach Kenyatte

Dream, Achieve, Succeed, Grow!

Here’s to a Happy and Prosperous New Year!

2014

Unlicensed Teenage Driving!!!!!

Goal-Oriented Parenting

teenage driving

I was recently presented with the issue of an unlicensed young adult driving a friend’s car. This particular youth is under my care and partial supervision; they are 18 now. At a holiday function, my youth proclaimed to the family, “I’ll drive!”

As soon as the words fell from their lips, I spoke up and said, “you DON’T have a drivers license“, to which their uncle responded, “DON’T do it, driving without a license is not good”. The youth, then responded, “ok, well who is going to drive then”. You see this youth has been “driving under the radar” for some time now. Neither parent was aware that our youth was doing this. So, what can be done? What can I do for my determined, yet, not truly convinced about conventional responsibility, youth?

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I think to myself and come to the decision that, I am REQUIRED to protect my children and youth while providing them with the tools that they need to succeed and produce positively in life. So if I am doing what is right, then I am obligated to help them achieve “LEGAL DRIVING” status. I write this because this particular youth I did not birth. As I am somewhat of a self-proclaimed disciplinarian, I tend to lead with the “long arm of the law” when it comes to getting my household in line.

This approach, especially when dealing with youth, who have been left to their own devices for a good part of their life, can be met, more often than not, with EXTREME resistance. Well….. SO BE IT! I will shutdown all avenues of unlicensed driving privileges by any means necessary, including – but not limited to talking to parents of friends and family soliciting and securing their support. The end result will be a clear path to Drivers Ed class online for $28.50 and Drivers Testing for $25 (check your local DMV for your state fees). It’s such a small price to pay for independence and one additional step closer to responsible living and maturity. Even though they may like, or even treasure the path of least resistance, it can sometime lead to illegal, dangerous and irresponsible choices, decisions and continued dependence. A little bit of consistent, unrelenting discipline goes a long way to getting and keeping your youth on the path that is positive and right.

I welcome your comments and experiences!

Discipline (training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior) is the healthy alternative to lenience.”